Don’t let negative emotions get the better of you and sabotage your career! By Priya Prakasan
Cultivate these habits so that you increase your self-awareness and get a firm grip on emotions that could derail your ability to lead and manage a team.
1. Have healthy boundaries
Setting and maintaining boundaries with those who needle or anger you is a skill. These boundaries mean that you are assertive enough to set limits so as to keep them from taking advantage of your nature or pushing your buttons. This way you’re not providing them the opportunity to disrespect your authority. Start by identifying your physical and emotional mental limits. What is permissible and what isn’t? Then in direct, no-nonsense terms communicate this to the other person and maintain these boundaries during all interactions.
2. Deal with your primary emotions
Emotionally intelligent people realise the important of understanding the reasons behind the negative emotions they are experiencing. They look for the root causes underneath the surface of anger, anxiety, fear, worry, etc. These emotions are reactions and they try to analyse the reasons behind them. What are the triggers, the real reasons behind your emotions? Follow the trail and once you’ve tackled and understood these primary emotions you’ll be in a better position to get a handle on your reactions.
3. Learn to respond, not react
Increase your self-awareness so that you know then you’re being triggered and can take a step back, listen without being judgemental, assess the situation rationally, and then respond. Allow yourself the time to get a better perspective and understanding of the situation because there are consequences if you lose control of your emotions and just react.
4. Adopt a positive mindset
In order to cope with the negative you need to make a conscious, intentional effort to shift to the positive. Negative emotions can heavily affect your day-to-day functioning. So instead focus on brighter emotions, look for the silver lining and make this into a habit. Train yourself to be optimistic so that you’re surrounding yourself with positive energy. Positivity is also contagious, which means you’re also creating a positive environment for your employees.
5. Don’t let those emotions fester
This one is an extension of the earlier points. Try to be the first one to reach out and try to make amends after an argument or a misunderstanding. Don’t ignore those negative emotions and let them fester. That’s never a good move. Emotionally intelligent people don’t let their ego come in the way of a good relationship. Be humble, be courageous and extend the olive branch. It will do wonders for the relationship.
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